That was the last time your posts about politics or scandals had any real impact.

But now it’s 2026. The social media landscape is very different. And some of us are still operating with what I’ll call social media arrested development syndrome. We are stuck in a time capsule of assumptions about how these platforms work.

There was a time when posting online could actually persuade people. Articles were shared and read. Conversations happened. Disagreements did not automatically turn into character attacks, and changing your mind was not treated like betraying your tribe.

That world feels almost archaic now.

Today, much of what is shared on social media is not engineered for thoughtful dialogue or careful discernment. It is engineered for speed, clicks, and emotional reaction. All of it is part of a monetary reward system designed to ensure we remain engaged. And nothing keeps us engaged like outrage. The Bible, in its timeless wisdom, anticipated this long before algorithms ever existed:

Proverbs 18:2 – Fools have no interest in understanding; they only want to air their own opinions.

Everyone is being trained to share those opinions louder and faster. Christians have been no exception to taking the bait: a public scandal breaks, a political headline drops, a ruling is handed down, a clip goes viral. Almost instantly, everyone chimes in. Different subjects, same response.

Christians feel the pressure to post quickly: to clarify, condemn, defend, draw lines, and signal where they stand. The impulse is understandable. In many cases, it comes from a genuine desire to shepherd people through confusing or volatile moments.

But it isn't working.

When emotions are high, persuasion is low. When people are activated, they are rarely curious. Whether the issue is a Christian leader’s failure or a political controversy, most people are not actually listening. They are braced, defending, and already convinced they are right. James speaks into this dynamic with unsettling clarity:

James 1:19-20 – You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires.

Social media is carefully and intentionally curated to pull us in the opposite direction of righteousness.

This is an uncomfortable observation, but an important one.

Christian scandal posts and political rage posts function identically. They activate tribal instincts and reward anger or fear. What often begins as “the courage to speak out” is, in reality, outrage masquerading as conviction. More often than we want to admit, our anger is simply a way to hide our fear. As a result, our goal becomes reinforcing who is in and who is out. Who is safe and who is not.

But the algorithms do not care whether something is safe or not. They don't even care whether the outrage is theological, ideological, or political. They only care that it spreads. And so, we post. Engagement spikes and the comments fill up with amens, applause, and affirmation. Our side cheers, and the other side digs in.

So here's what I'm asking. Maybe it's time to reflect on this toxic merry-go-round and ask some better questions. Questions like: "Is this actually working? Is anyone actually being changed for the good?" To use Christian vernacular, "Are people actually being discipled?" Sadly, I think we all know the answers if we're being honest with ourselves.

In fact, if we're being really honest, we just want people to hear us. To empathize with us. To agree with us. In so doing, we end up engaging online in a way that is no different from the political figures who throw red meat to their base. The message lands because those people already agree. Engagement rises, but persuasion does not. The Apostle Paul warned his protégé, Timothy, that this dynamic would play out even among Christians:

2 Timothy 4:3 – For a time is coming when people will no longer listen to sound and wholesome teaching. They will follow their own desires and look for teachers who will tell them whatever their itching ears want to hear.

Agreement is not the same as growth. Volume is not the same as influence. Noise is not the same as efficacy.

I will say this plainly. I do not want an eternal digital record of every reaction I have had to every scandal or political moment. New information emerges. Context shifts. Stories evolve. What felt righteous in the moment can later appear rushed, incomplete, or poorly framed. Sometimes, if I am honest, my instincts were simply wrong. Not because I was trying to deceive, but because I was reacting.

When that happens, the options are limited. Either you walk it back, or you dig in. Retractions are rare. Defensiveness, rationalization, and self-justification are far more common. And once we dig in, it becomes increasingly difficult to tell whether we are defending truth or just defending ourselves.

Proverbs 29:20 – There is more hope for a fool than for someone who speaks without thinking.

Wisdom often needs time, and social media seldom allows for that. But there is an even deeper cost...a not-so-hidden cost.

Christians are supposed to have a meaningful number of people in their lives who have yet to believe. That includes their social media spaces. These people are watching quietly. Observing how we speak and how we disagree. They are paying attention to how we handle power, failure, conflict, and politics.

Do we really want their primary exposure to Christianity to be Christians locked in constant public battles, arguing in comment sections, and reacting to every cultural flare-up as if it were a crisis of faith?

Colossians 4:5 – Live wisely among those who are not believers, and make the most of every opportunity.

Wisdom means considering not only what we say, but when we say it, where we say it, and what our words are likely to produce in that moment.

If our reactions are eroding our credibility, what can we do instead? At least, that's the question I'm obsessed with when I think about my own social media usage.

(1) Post About Underlying Themes Before the Scandal or Crisis Happens

If we only speak when a scandal breaks or a political crisis erupts, we will always be late. By then, people are already defensive, and postures are already set.

A better approach is proactive formation. Meaning, we should regularly engage the deeper themes that sit beneath the surface before the problem arises. Themes such as:
 

• Power
• Character
• Humility
• Repentance
• Justice
• Truth
• Grace
• The limits of political solutions
• The danger of moral shortcuts
• The call to faithfulness over visibility

When we address these themes before they are attached to a cultural crisis, we build credibility and increase the likelihood that people will actually listen. In other words, these conversations land very differently when people are not already triggered.

Luke 6:45 – What you say flows from what is in your heart.

That means we should speak to people’s hearts before they are locked into a theological or ideological turf war. When that groundwork is laid, responses to difficult moments are far more likely to be shaped by earlier, healthier conversations. What we say in a crisis should be an overflow of what we have already been teaching and posting.

(2) Move the Hardest Conversations Offline

I agree that some moments are too significant to ignore. That is true. But our responsibility is not to disciple the internet. Our responsibility is to engage with the people we know, the people we are accountable for, and the people who can ask us real questions.

That means moving conversations into in-person spaces whenever possible. Living rooms. Offices. Classrooms. Coffee tables. LifeGroups and other church settings. These are the environments where nuance is possible. Where disagreements do not automatically become dehumanizing. Where people are not hiding behind screens or keyboards.

Hebrews 10:24-25 – Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together.

Meaningful formation only happens face-to-face.

A fair response to an article like this is to point out the irony. After all, this is a public post about public posts. But it is a post urging restraint in a world trained to react. Personally, I am learning to choose the former whenever possible.

You may disagree. But is your way working? Do you see things getting better? So, maybe it's time for a pause, some reflection, and a different approach.  

That doesn't mean we never speak out publicly. That's not really the issue. The issue is whether our patterns of speaking are actually forming people or simply keeping us active in the same outrage cycles we claim to resist. There is a difference between speaking with intention and speaking on impulse. A difference between conviction and compulsion. A difference between shepherding people and catering to an audience.

And most of us can feel it when we have crossed that line. Tragically, others cannot.

What the world needs from Christians right now is restraint. The ability to engage cultural issues without becoming captive to them. The internet is unlikely to change for the better, but people can. And Jesus is still forming men and women who listen for His voice rather than the crowd’s reaction.

That means we need Christians, and Christian voices online, who are more hopeful than the internet itself. I, for one, believe Christians need to stay engaged with social media for this reason. But walking that line will not be easy. We will make mistakes. Most of us have felt the pull to react quickly and speak loudly, only to realize later that we should have slowed down. Thank God, there's grace. And growth requires grace.

Maybe we can grow in this together. We do not have to mirror the culture to reach the culture. We can be slower. We can be wiser.

And instead of merely bringing the news, we can bring good news.

Galatians 6:9 – So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time, we will reap a harvest of blessings if we do not give up.

It dawned on me recently that no one has ever had a pain-free year.

In fact, I have never met a single person who said, “That was the greatest year of my life. I wish I could‘ve stayed there forever.” Nope. Not one. Maybe they exist somewhere, I'm just saying I've never met one. This is because usually when someone wants to go back to the “good ol’ days,” it’s because they’re juxtaposing it against the current days. The hard days. Not because the “good ol’ days” were actually the “good ol’ days.” They seldom are…even if they’re remembered that way (Ecclesiastes 7:10).

Instead, every January, I meet and talk to people who are eager to wipe the slate clean and start again. Like most of us, they begin each New Year hoping it will be better than the last. And so every trip around the sun, we find ourselves repeating the same cycle of anticipated and unmet expectations.

King Solomon, the writer of my favorite book of the Bible, once observed that history has a way of repeating itself, that nothing under the sun is truly new (Ecclesiastes 1:9). He seems to be acknowledging that every year is hard in some way. Every year falls short of our expectations. Every year brings twists and turns that you could not have predicted, no matter how prepared you thought you were.

But what if this year you could know?

What if you could know ahead of time how hard this year would be? Not just that it would be difficult, but exactly how difficult. What if you could see the betrayals, the losses, the health scares, the financial strain, the unexpected pain, and the moments that would change you forever? Not to stop them (because you can't), but to prepare yourself for them. How might that affect your posture heading into the New Year?

Well, that question is not hypothetical for my family.

It just so happens that my wife and I know that this year will be the hardest year we have ever faced. Many in our church know that our son Tyler has reached a stage where his body can no longer withstand repeated hospitalizations and recurrent infections. A few months ago, we made the most painful decision imaginable. We decided that his most recent hospitalization would be his last. When his next infection occurs (and it will), we will transition him to comfort care through hospice.

And so now we wait.

We do not know the day or the hour. But we do know what is coming. And knowing that has forced me to wrestle with one question, in particular. That even when a year is hard, or even the hardest, does that mean it cannot be good? Are hard and good mutually exclusive to the Christian? This question is especially poignant in a world that measures goodness by comfort or by certain outcomes.

So follow my logic...

If every year is hard in some way, and no one is exempt, then why aren't we better prepared? Why aren't we ready for it? Mike Tyson famously once quipped, "Everyone has plan until they get punched in the mouth." Maybe we should start preparing to get punched in the mouth? The Apostle Peter puts it this way:

1 Peter 4:12 — Dear friends, don’t be surprised at the fiery trials you are going through, as if something strange were happening to you.

Here's the big idea: you need to prepare for tomorrow's pain, today. Which probably leads you to the next question: "How do I do that? What, exactly, does that look like?" I'm glad you asked. I thought that might be a worth-while exploration for the remainder of this article. An exploration that I am forcing myself to go through, knowing what this year has in store. And here’s what I’ve come up with…

Here are three helpful postures that will prepare you for any New Year, no matter what it might throw at you.

Suffering, in and of itself, is never good. But it can be redeemed and repurposed for good things by a good God. The book of James is a reminder that life’s trials will always test your faith. Like a pop-quiz no one saw coming, if you have to take it, you might as well give it all you've got. Over time, testing makes you a more durable person.

This growth process is all part of how God uses your pain for good (James 1:2–4). Growth doesn't come in spite of pain, it often comes through it. "No pain, no gain" may seem like a cliché, but it's nonetheless a true one.

Joseph’s story is a powerful example. Betrayed by his brothers, sold into slavery, falsely accused, and forgotten in prison, Joseph lost years of his life to circumstances he did not choose. Yet God was quietly at work in every chapter. When Joseph eventually stood before the very brothers who betrayed him, he was able to say that what they intended for harm, God used for good (Genesis 50:20).

Did you catch that? Hard and good are not mutually exclusive.

Joseph did not understand God’s plan while he was living it. He understood it by looking back on it. Hard years have a way of teaching you good things. The kind of things that the easy years couldn't have. The alternative is that the hard things are wasted. Pointless. Whereas God wants to redeem them, turning your pain into a great teacher if you allow it.

So will you be prepared to learn?

Pain is never part of my plan. In fact, my life rarely unfolds the way I intended. Yet, none of it is a surprise to God. The book of Proverbs is constantly trying to remind me that while I am making plans, goals, and resolutions for the New Year, God knows how it will actually turn out (Proverbs 16:9). In other words, life will always disrupt my plans. But sometimes, those disruptions are necessary course corrections that God allows.

The Apostle Paul experienced this firsthand. He carefully planned where he would preach next, only to be stopped repeatedly. Doors he expected to open remained closed. But the Bible tells us that the Holy Spirit was redirecting him. What seemed like delay ultimately led Paul into new territory where the gospel spread in ways he never imagined (Acts 16:6–10).

Faith is not stubbornly clinging to a particular plan. Faith is prayerfully trusting God enough to pivot when He leads you somewhere you did not anticipate. When things get hard, it sometimes requires you to release the life you imagined in order to live the life God is actually giving.

So will you be prepared to change your plans?

At the heart of every painful season is the issue of trust. Will you trust God only when an outcome makes sense, or will you trust Him in spite of the outcome?

Abraham’s story reminds us that trust often comes before understanding. Often God only provides enough information to take another step of obedience. Abraham followed God into an unknown future, holding promises he could not yet see fulfilled. Later, he was asked to surrender the very thing those promises were built upon. Abraham did not have clarity about how God would work things out. What he had was confidence in who God is and in His demonstrated faithfulness over time (Hebrews 11:8–12).

Trusting God does not mean proceeding with blind faith. No, faith is meant to be informed and measured. It is built on what God has already revealed about Himself in our lives and the lives of other Christians. His faithfulness in the past ought to steady you in the present and give you hope for the future. Over and over again, the Bible is pleading with you to remember who God has been so you can trust Him with what you cannot yet see (Hebrews 11:1).

Trust, then, is not in outcomes. It is not in timelines. It is not in understanding how everything will resolve. Your trust is in the character and nature of God. A God who has proven Himself good, faithful, and near, even in seasons of suffering.

The Bible calls you to trust the Lord with all your heart and not lean on your own understanding, believing that He will direct your path even when it is unclear (Proverbs 3:5–6). That kind of trust does not remove the pain, but it does give you something solid to stand on while enduring it.

For my family, trusting God does not mean pretending this year will be easy. It means choosing to believe that God will be working for my good even if I cannot change what is coming. It means trusting that none of it will be wasted and all of it will be redeemed when measured within Kingdom economics.

So will you be prepared to trust God?

This year might be hard for you. In fact, it might be your hardest year ever. But that doesn't mean it won't be good.

Romans 8:28 — And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.

The Bible never promises easy years. What it promises is a good God. And His character will remain the same with the incoming tide and the rising of the sea. This is because His plans are shaped by love, even when those plans are hidden from view. The Bible is clear: God is good and His faithful love endures, even in seasons of sorrow (Lamentations 3:31–33).

There are years when God’s goodness is easy to see. And there are years when it must be trusted more than felt. But faith has always lived in that space. Trusting that God is at work for good, not because everything is good, but because He is (Romans 8:28).

Yes, this year might be really, really hard. But it can still be very, very good. And that's because God is good. Your part is to be prepared: to learn, to pivot, and to trust. 

I, for one, have a lot of preparing to do. You probably do too...

It seems to me that Bay Hills is a tale of two churches. Two generations.

What I mean by that is this. Bay Hills is still settling into a new identity, one inaugurated by the transition from my predecessor’s leadership. Under his tenure, Bay Hills was intentionally Sunday-centered. Our weekend worship services took center-stage. Most of our energy, effort, and resources were directed toward the success of a Sunday morning. Services were excellent, highly practical, and intentionally seeker-sensitive, all done with a genuine desire to reach people far from God.

Those values did not emerge in a vacuum. They were largely shaped by the Boomer Generation, which influenced the past three decades of Bay Hills’ life. Leadership in that era tended to be less collaborative and more reflective of a CEO-style of Senior Pastor. That model was largely shaped by influential figures such as Bill Hybels, with churches like Willow Creek on the cutting edge of reaching the Boomer Generation.

This is not a critique so much as a commentary. Every generation shapes the church in its own image (Psalm 145:4). Sometimes for the good. Sometimes with unintended consequences. But always with lasting impact.

Now, a new generation is shaping the future.

Gen X and Millennials each left their mark, but it is Generation Z that will likely shape the church for decades to come, much like the Boomers once did. Gen Z carries distinct values, expectations, and instincts. If the future of the church matters to us, and it should, then learning to understand this generation is not optional (Issachar understood the times and knew what Israel should do, 1 Chronicles 12:32).

More on that in a moment.

In many ways, 2025 at Bay Hills also felt like a tale of two churches.

The first half of the year was marked by extraordinary unity and momentum around the RISE Initiative. Against the odds, we came together to secure a more permanent foundation and platform for our mission into the future. The energy was palpable. The atmosphere was life giving. Guests felt it. Members felt it. Candidly, it was the most fun I have had in ministry in a very long time (Psalm 133:1).

But the Enemy rarely tolerates forward movement.

The Bible reminds us that Satan hates the church almost as much as he hates the name of Jesus (1 Peter 5:8). Like a snake in an otherwise peaceful garden, he went to work. The second half of 2025 exposed some of the most painful realities of local church life.

One of the unintended consequences of the seeker-sensitive movement is that it quietly reinforced consumeristic tendencies. Preferences began to shape programs. Programs slowly became the point, rather than serving the point. Over time, churches were prone to turn inward, away from the mission field and toward itself, losing sight of what mattered most.

Paul describes this dynamic with sobering clarity: division, dissension, jealousy, envy, gossip, slander, half truths, and outright untruths (Galatians 5:19–21). I now understand firsthand what he meant when he warned about Christians biting and devouring one another (Galatians 5:15). In the second half of 2025, we saw some of this play out in our own backyard.

It is important to say that most of this affected only a small number of people. As a result, many of you were blissfully unaware of what was taking place, and that was not accidental. Bay Hills is led by godly and growing leaders who refused to retaliate with gossip or respond to slander with more of the same. Instead, they chose the harder road. The higher road. They chose to turn the other cheek (Matthew 5:39) and keep their hands on the plow (Luke 9:62). To fix their eyes on what matters most (Hebrews 12:1–2).

The season culminated in some of the most difficult leadership decisions we have faced in recent memory. While redemption is always our hope (2 Corinthians 5:18), leaders sometimes have to settle for shaking the dust from their feet and moving forward (Matthew 10:14).

Which brings us back to Generation Z.

This rising generation has little patience for pettiness, politics, and institutional friction. While Gen Z is deeply interested in Jesus, they are often deeply skeptical of church people. In addition, they are not looking for highly polished services that feel flawless or manufactured. They are far more interested in authenticity than production value.

This generation values leaders who are honest, raw, and willing to tell the truth about the Bible, even when that truth is costly or uncomfortable. They are less concerned with whether something is seeker-sensitive and far more concerned with whether it is real.

They want the real Jesus.

Not a curated version designed to avoid offense. They want to be taught the Bible faithfully, clearly, and without apology. They want leaders who believe what they preach and actually seek to live it out. Even if it costs them.

They also understand that Sunday services are not the point. Sundays matter, but they are not the measure of spiritual health. What they are longing for is authentic transformation that carries into the rest of the week. They want a faith that shapes how they work, love, serve, forgive, and live. They want to be part of a community where following Jesus leads to a life of real and meaningful purpose, not just religious adherence.

More than anything, they want to be part of something where God actually moves. Not just talked about. Not just programmed. But genuinely encountered. They long for a faith that is alive, transformative, and powerful. A faith that changes people, heals wounds, confronts sin, and brings dead things back to Life.

The Bible is unmistakably clear about what marks God’s people to a watching world. Their love for one another (John 13:34–35). If Bay Hills is going to continue reaching and growing in this landscape, our communal identity must keep maturing (Ephesians 4:15–16). The main thing must remain the main thing.

People need Jesus (Romans 10:14–15). The gospel must be preached (1 Corinthians 15:1–4). We are seeing new and emerging Christians baptized at a record pace (Acts 2:41). That is not peripheral...it's the point.

Our focus in this next season is clear. To lead people to Life, and to more Life (John 10:10). Not programs and agendas.

To sustain that vision, we must become even more focused in 2026. This includes all layers and levels of leadership at Bay Hills.  For the first time, we have now completed a full year with a unified Executive Leadership Team fully intact. They are strategic, aligned, and deeply in love with Jesus (Philippians 2:2).

In addition, our leadership structure must continue making room for high capacity, unpaid leaders. This has been an essential shift for a church in our context, especially given the realities of limited resources compared to churches of similar size.

Yes, I have seen some of the worst this year. But I am still that hopeful rebel. I genuinely believe some of the best is still ahead (Romans 8:18). You should, too.

Bay Hills will continue laying the groundwork for a culture with a low tolerance for anything that encumbers the next generation (Hebrews 12:1). A church relentlessly preoccupied with the mission of God and the things that truly matter (Matthew 6:33), even when that requires sifting (Luke 22:31–32).

Our leadership culture is growing healthier. Far from perfect. But healthier (Proverbs 4:18). As result, we can look to 2026 with hopeful anticipation. I am eager to see God use us, as He already has, but in ways we could never ask or imagine apart from Jesus (Ephesians 3:20).

So hold on to your hats, Bay Hills. The ride may be bumpy. The challenges innumerable. But I assure you, it will be worth it. How do I know? Because while Bay Hills has been the tale of two churches, it has always been the story of one God.

And God writes only the best stories.

A couple of you had questions after our Christmas Gala this year. Not a lot, but a couple. So why dedicate an entire article to something only a couple of people asked about? Because I suspect more than a few are asking it, and for those that aren't, it might be a good exercise in knowing how to respond to it.

The theme for this year's Christmas Gala was Casino Royale, and yes, there were cards, dice, and tables that felt very casino-y. To be clear and for the record, we used fake money. No real betting. No real winnings. No chain smoking or pit bosses, either (unless you count Jorge). Just a fun night together.

But it does raise some interesting and long-debated questions: “Is gambling a sin?” “Should the church be doing something like that?” “Where’s the line?” Those questions are worth asking, not just because of the Gala, but also because they can help us, as followers of Jesus, engage culture thoughtfully.

Let’s start with clarity. The Bible does not explicitly condemn gambling, games of chance, betting, or lotteries. There is no verse that says, “You shall not gamble.” That does not mean the Bible is silent on the deeper issues connected to gambling. The Bible consistently warns about the love of money, shortcuts to provision, and misplaced trust.

• 1 Timothy 6:10 - “For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.”
• Hebrews 13:5 - “Don’t love money; be satisfied with what you have. For God has said, ‘I will never fail you. I will never abandon you.’”
• Proverbs 13:11 - “Wealth from get-rich-quick schemes quickly disappears; wealth from hard work grows over time.”

The Bible does not give us a direct rule here; instead, it gives us wisdom.

When people try to prove that gambling is either clearly permitted or clearly condemned, the passages they most often point to involve the casting of lots. So it is important to slow down and look at those texts carefully.

Throughout the Bible, casting lots was used to determine the will of the Lord, not to win money, possessions, or advantage over others.

• Leviticus 16:8 - “He will cast sacred lots to determine which goat will be reserved as an offering to the Lord and which will carry the sins of the people to the wilderness.”
• Joshua 18:10 - “Joshua cast sacred lots in the presence of the Lord to determine which land would be assigned to each tribe.”
• Nehemiah 11:1 - “The leaders cast lots to decide which of the people would live in Jerusalem.”
• Acts 1:26 - “Then they cast lots, and Matthias was chosen to replace Judas.”

In each of these cases, the people were not chasing luck or profit. They were seeking God’s direction. Casting lots was essentially a way of saying, “Lord, You decide.” As Proverbs 16:33 reminds us, “We may throw the dice, but the Lord determines how they fall.”

This was not ancient gambling. It was discernment. Casting lots was not a biblical endorsement of betting any more than rock, paper, scissors is a substitute for prayer or searching the Bible. It was a practice rooted in dependence on God, not the pursuit of gain.

Every church and every follower of Jesus has to decide how to engage cultural issues. One helpful framework is to ask whether something should be rejected, received, or redeemed.

Some things are incompatible with following Jesus and should be rejected outright. Pornography is a clear example. It distorts people made in God’s image and damages souls and relationships.

Some things are morally neutral and depend entirely on how they are used, and can therefore be received with caution. Technology fits here. A phone can disciple you or distract you. The tool itself is not the issue. How it's used is.

Other things can be rethought, reframed, or repurposed. Games, play, and certain forms of entertainment often land here. They are not ultimate, but they can be enjoyed rightly, if redeemed.

The real issue with gambling is not cards, dice, or chance. It is stewardship and exploitation.

This is where the conversation often gets inconsistent. Most of us would not blink an eye at someone paying a few dollars to play a carnival game of chance (think 'ring toss' and winning a stuffed animal). But introduce cards, chips, or dice, and suddenly alarms go off. Functionally, those activities are the same thing. The difference is not the game. The difference is the assumptions we bring with us.

At the heart of this conversation is stewardship. How are we managing what God has entrusted to us? Our money, our time, our habits, and our hearts. For one person, spending a small amount on a game for entertainment may be wise, controlled, and inconsequential. For another, it may be destructive. When gambling begins to control someone rather than remain controlled by them, it has crossed a line. The issue is not chance. The issue is self-control and stewardship.

The second line gambling crosses is exploitation. Gambling, by nature, depends on loss. For one person to win, someone else and usually many others must lose. The Bible consistently calls God’s people to love their neighbor, pursue justice, and refuse to exploit others for personal gain. When gambling moves beyond light entertainment into a system designed to profit from someone else’s misfortune, it becomes ethically problematic.

This is especially true in environments where the system is intentionally stacked against the player. Casinos, betting platforms, and lotteries are not neutral. They are designed to take money in large amounts and return very little. Their profitability depends on people losing money, not winning it. For a follower of Jesus to actively seek financial benefit from another person’s loss is more than unwise. It is inconsistent with the way of Jesus.

Not every game of chance is sinful. But when gambling becomes a stewardship issue or an act of exploitation, it has crossed a moral line.

Addiction is real...and it matters. But addiction is not limited to gambling. People are addicted to food, shopping, work, screens, caffeine, social media, and approval.

If the mere possibility of addiction made something sinful, we would have to remove food from church events. We would never serve dessert. We would ban phones from the building.

Some might argue that even simulated gambling could cause someone else to stumble. But taken to its logical conclusion, that argument becomes unworkable. It would be like saying we should not serve sparkling apple cider in a wine glass because it might awaken a darker struggle.

Pastoral care means being sensitive, not fearful. It means walking with people toward freedom, not eliminating every object that could possibly be misused.

The Bible does not forbid a friendly wager between two players on a tennis court. It does not explicitly prohibit entering a raffle, filling out an office March Madness bracket, or playing a game of chance for fun.

What the Bible does challenge is this. Who or what do you trust for provision? What is shaping your desires? Are you stewarding what God has given you wisely? And does this draw you closer to Jesus or pull you away from Him? At the same time, we should ask whether certain things can be redeemed and leveraged to serve a greater mission and help us connect meaningfully with the culture around us.

Those are the questions that matter most. And they are worth asking far beyond the Christmas Gala.

If you're reading this. God has called you. In fact, He's called all of us. Everyone has a calling, and everyone can know what it is...right now. However, to do that, we must understand the misuses and abuses of that word today.

We often confuse calling with platforms (more on that later). People say things like, “I’m called to be a teacher,” or “I was 'called' elsewhere, when I left that job.” But biblically, calling is not a career, a title, or a role. And when we confuse the two, it can cause real problems, where calling feels:

• Exclusive — you assume only pastors or “special” people have a calling.
• Elusive — you chase some mystical role and live in fear of missing your calling.
• Confusing — you equate calling with passion, talent, or career.
• Crushing — you tie your identity to performance or fruit you can’t control.
• Comparative — you measure yourself against others and feel your calling is “less.”

But here’s the good news: only your platform changes, never your calling.

In the Bible, the word calling comes from the Greek word kaleō, which means “to invite by name.” That’s precisely what God has done. He has invited you by name into relationship with Jesus. So, beginning with that truth, your calling has three major progressions:

TO BELIEVE IN JESUS
Romans 8:30 — And having chosen them, he called (kaleō) them to come to him. And having called them, he gave them right standing with himself...

TO BELONG TO HIS CHURCH
Ephesians 4:1–4 — Therefore I, a prisoner for serving the Lord, beg you to lead a life worthy of your calling (kaleō), for you have been called by God....Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. For there is one body and one Spirit...

TO BE LIGHT IN THE WORLD
1 Peter 2:9 — But you are not like that, for you are a chosen people. You are royal priests, a holy nation, God’s very own possession. As a result, you can show others the goodness of God, for he called (kaleō) you out of the darkness into his wonderful light.

The reason this is such good news is that it means your calling cannot be changed. You can’t lose your salvation (Romans 8:30), your place in God’s family cannot be revoked (Ephesians 4:4), and as long as we live on this side of heaven, people everywhere will always need light in dark places (1 Peter 3:9).

While your calling never changes, your platform will shift many times over the course of a lifetime. Platforms are the places, roles, and contexts where you live out your calling. They expand, shrink, and rotate depending on the season of life. Sometimes the platform is highly visible, sometimes it feels hidden. Sometimes it comes with a title, and sometimes it looks like everyday faithfulness behind the scenes.

That’s good news for a stay-at-home mom who wonders if she still has a calling. She does—her platform just looks different than it once did. Raising kids, managing a household, and creating a space where faith is lived out is not “less than”; it is simply a different platform on which the same calling to believe, belong, and be light is worked out.

It is also good news for those who have lost a job. You did not lose your calling, only that specific platform changed. Even in seasons without employment, you still have spaces to live out your calling in new ways. Times of transition or waiting do not erase your purpose. They create opportunities to bring light into unexpected places and to new people God puts in your path.

Platforms change with age, family rhythms, career moves, health, and location. They may grow, shrink, or change shape entirely. But none of that threatens your calling. In fact, the shifting of platforms is often how God broadens your impact. Every new platform opens new doors and intersects your life with new people who need the hope only He can give.

Your job is not to cling to a platform but to stay faithful to the One who called you by name. When we understand the difference between calling and platform, the pressure to know and find our calling fades away. Transitions no longer define us, hidden seasons still carry dignity, and ordinary spaces like the soccer field, the break room, or the dinner table become platforms to be light.

Your calling is permanent, while your platform is seasonal. So whether you are leading a company, raising kids, studying for finals, or serving lattes, your calling remains in tact: believe, belong, and be light.

Today marks the 24th anniversary of the September 11 attacks, 24 years since our nation witnessed evil in its rawest form. On that day, moral relativism paused. Partisan politics were put on hold. For at least a moment, we all saw what evil looks like, no spin, no nuance, no attempt to soften the horror.

By the time I decided to transition from my previous church, I had completely withdrawn from social media, not out of fear, but out of weariness. I was tired of seeing humanity destroy each other from behind their screens. I was tired of toxicity. I was tired of Christians, too often, trading truth for tribalism.

But when the recruiters I chose to work with said to me, “You must re-engage on these platforms. Many churches will expect it,” something struck me. If Christians continue to concede these platforms, we leave people without a witness to the Gospel in one of the very places where their thinking and convictions are being shaped.

Yesterday, something unthinkable happened. Charlie Kirk, a conservative activist and polarizing figure, but still a human being, was assassinated on a college campus. A place historically dedicated to the free exchange of ideas. And instead of debate, someone chose violence.

In recent weeks, we’ve also seen school shootings ravage children in places meant to be safe. The Annunciation Catholic School shooting in Minneapolis, where two young children were killed and many wounded during a time of worship, reminds us that evil does not respect age, innocence, or sanctuary.  

We have also witnessed other political assassination attempts, killings, and threats—this is not isolated. What happened to Charlie Kirk is part of a growing pattern of violence in our society, whether aimed at children in schools, worshippers, public figures, or ordinary citizens. We must see the connection, not to exploit grief, but to understand that evil, once permitted and unchallenged, spreads.

I do not care if you agree with the politics of Charlie Kirk or detest them. I do not care whether you consider his ideas wise or foolish. What matters is that we do not lose our ability to spot evil and call it out.

At Bay Hills, we believe God is actively at work in every generation—and our Young Adults group is no exception. This community of 18- to 30-somethings is growing in faith, walking in purpose, and learning what it means to follow Jesus together in everyday life. Through authentic relationships, honest conversations, and a shared pursuit of God, lives are being transformed. Below, you’ll read firsthand how God is moving in and through the Young Adults ministry.

Justin Vizinau

1. Before getting more connected at Bay Hills, was there anything that held you back from being in community---weather a personal struggle, doubt, or fear? How has God worked through those things to draw you closer to Him?

Honestly when I got to Bay Hills I was searching for a church to call home and find connection. A godly community is what I was searching for, I just needed the right place, the place where God was calling me to. So in figuring out if Bay Hills was that place, searching for those connections in the church community was a natural part of the process. There was nothing holding me back, I was all in on finding my community. It was just about figuring out where was the right fit and I'm so thankful that turned out to be Bay Hills! Through the experience of going all in with finding my godly community God has shown me His love through the people I have come to know and care for deeply in this church community. People here have poured into me teaching me, supporting me, and encouraging me which has been a huge blessing! I am so thankful for what God has done in my life through community.

2. Through your time at Bay Hills---whether at an event, through ministry, small group, or Sunday service---how has God revealed more of Himself to you? In what ways is He shaping your life or calling you to take new steps in your faith?

God has continued to walk with me through life and I don't know if it's Him showing more of Himself to me or just me discovering more about Him as I walk with Him through life and have more time with Him. Just as it would be with any kind of relationship, the more time you've spent with someone, the more you know about them and the more trust you build in them. God has shown me many sides of Himself probably the most pronounced being His sovereignty. Our God is to be submitted to and that is easier said than done, but He has shown me time and time again---whether through Sunday messages, small group discussions, or testimonies of those impacted by our ministry---that the more of our life we have submitted to Him the more full and joyous our lives will be. I've seen and felt what happens when we don't submit and it is not fun- stress, anxiety, shame, guilt, anger all resulting from disobedience so now that He has instilled obedience in me God has been calling me not just to walk in obedience and be submitted but to take chances and trust that He will guide me along the way.

3. What have you seen God do in your life or in the lives of others since becoming part of the Bay Hills community/your ministry or small group? What would you say to someone who's on the fence about getting involved either at Bay Hills or just coming to life through Jesus in general?

There are a lot of great things happening around Bay Hills and the Holy Spirit is moving in all kinds of ways! I have seen first hand how His Spirit is impacting young adults who are actively involved with our young adult ministry. I've seen some of them get baptized and begin to walk with Jesus in their life, I've seen them join other groups and find more community with others, I've seen them start to serve others around the church and in the community with joy, and I've seen them face struggles and challenges head on. They aren't doing so perfectly but progressively, and that is such an encouragement to me and inspires me to keep propelling the young adult ministry forward. I see so much more life in the people who, like myself, have surrounded themself in godly community. If there is someone on the fence about getting involved I would ask them what they gain from being on the fence? You don't find anything out that way, if you stay on the fence you will never know the impact getting involved will have on you or the impact you will have on others by getting involved. Take the chance and you will end up where you need to be whether with Bay Hills or somewhere else, but remaining on the fence will just keep you wondering which I imagine doesn't feel great.

Nathalie Chowmass

1. Before getting more connected at Bay Hills, was there anything that held you back from being in community---weather a personal struggle, doubt, or fear? How has God worked through those things to draw you closer to Him?

Before getting more connected at Bay Hills in community, I struggled with social anxiety and time management. I was also in a very dark place, in a bad relationship, and they would tell me things that would prevent me from leaving. During this time I was praying and being in the word a lot, and God led me to leave that relationship. Once I was out, someone from the young adult group  talked to me, and I slowly started to go to the events. I got the courage to join small groups, and God has been guiding me to build a great community with people who are also on the same journey of building their relationship with God; it has been very helpful. We talk about what we go through and this allows us to see we aren’t alone. It is helpful to have other people who will also guide you back to God and a good community where you can feel welcome.

2. Through your time at Bay Hills---whether at an event, through ministry, small group, or Sunday service---how has God revealed more of Himself to you? In what ways is He shaping your life or calling you to take new steps in your faith?

God has been with me through it all. God guided me in my darkness time when I felt super alone. He speaks to me through his word and helps guides me. He listens to me and shares his wisdom. God has lead me to getting baptized and learning how to fight against negative thoughts. God has given me community, has brought me to serve and has allowed me to share my testimony to get more people to God. God has given me unexplainable peace and love. I would be no one without Jesus.

3. What have you seen God do in your life or in the lives of others since becoming part of the Bay Hills community/your ministry or small group? What would you say to someone who's on the fence about getting involved either at Bay Hills or just coming to life through Jesus in general?

I have seen him answer prayers. I have seen God guide a lot of us and give us strength in tough times. Something I would say to someone who’s on the fence about getting involved would be that it is very important and helpful to have a community where we are all learning and growing together in our relationship with God. They are a safe place to share. The main thing is coming to Jesus. Jesus loves us, and He just wants us to accept him in our life. He is love, compassion, and true peace.

Armani Jones

1. Before getting more connected at Bay Hills, was there anything that held you back from being in community---weather a personal struggle, doubt, or fear? How has God worked through those things to draw you closer to Him?

Before Bay Hills, I carried a lot of pain, shame, and trauma. I had been through heartbreak, abandonment, loss, and deep emotional battles. I was used to isolating myself when I was hurting on the inside mostly because I didn’t think anyone could handle what I carried. From losing my father to losing my best friend who was like a little brother in one week was heavy. It really made my heart numb and hardened, so my emotional awareness dropped which made me become insensitive. Nothing could fix the void I had, so I left the grief unattended. Trusting people, let alone a church community, didn’t come easy. But God met me in that brokenness. He kept calling me gently, and when I finally showed up at Bay Hills, it wasn’t just about attending—it was like He was saying, “You're safe here.” Through worship, messages, and even just kind people showing love with no strings attached, God slowly broke down the walls I had built. He used this church to remind me I’m not alone, and that healing happens in the community.

2. Through your time at Bay Hills---whether at an event, through ministry, small group, or Sunday service---how has God revealed more of Himself to you? In what ways is He shaping your life or calling you to take new steps in your faith?

At Bay Hills, God has revealed Himself not just as a Savior, but as a Father—patient, kind, and present. I’ve felt His presence during worship and through real, raw conversations in small group. The messages hit differently when you know you’re in the middle of a transformation. God is reshaping my identity, calling me to step into purpose, to serve, to live boldly for Him. I'm preparing for the Air Force now, and I know it’s not just a career—it’s a calling to be a light wherever I go. Bay Hills has helped me see that my pain wasn’t the end of my story—it was the setup for a testimony. Now, I’m walking in faith, not fear.

3. What have you seen God do in your life or in the lives of others since becoming part of the Bay Hills community/your ministry or small group? What would you say to someone who's on the fence about getting involved either at Bay Hills or just coming to life through Jesus in general?

Since becoming part of the Bay Hills family, I’ve seen restoration—starting with myself. I’ve watched old wounds start to heal. I’ve seen God bring peace where there used to be chaos, and joy where there used to be numbness. I’ve met others who are walking miracles, and it reminded me that we all need grace. To anyone who’s on the fence: I get it. I know what it feels like to wonder if church is for you. But it is. Jesus is for you. Bay Hills is a place where you don’t have to have it all together—just be willing to show up. And let God handle the rest. And I promise, He’ll meet you there, like He met me.

Last week, men from Bay Hills teamed up with Valley Church for a powerful weekend at the 2025 Men’s Retreat. Over three days, they experienced deep spiritual growth, meaningful conversations, and joyful fellowship.

Some unforgettable moments included one man being baptized and another accepting Christ for the first time. The group shared meals, laughter, and games, enjoyed a scenic hike at Burney Falls, and gathered around firepits for prayer and brotherhood. It was a time to slow down, connect with God, and connect with each other.

We asked some of the men to reflect on their experience. Here’s what they shared:

Manny Martinez

1. Before attending this retreat, was there anything that made you hesitant to go—whether a personal obstacle, doubt, or concern? How did God meet you in that?

Actually no, I was excited to go to camp. I have always loved camps because I know God can use these experiences to do great things in our lives. I became a believer at a camp when I was a teenager and ever since I’ve been a big believer in going to camps like the men’s retreat.

2. During the retreat, what did God reveal to you—about Himself, about who you are, or about your journey with Him? How has that experience shaped your next steps?

The theme of the retreat was God’s grace. I learned that the Christian walk is about accepting my identity in Christ as no longer a sinner but a saint. In Ephesians the apostle Paul refers to us as citizens and saints. I learned that I need to quit trying to please God but instead trust Him and step into my new identity. 


3. If you could speak directly to a man who’s never been on a retreat like this, what would you say to encourage him to take that step?
I would tell anyone who has never gone to a camp to take the risk. Step out in faith and trust that God can and will use this time to step away from our day to day world, slow down, enjoy His creation and hear His voice. I think God mostly speaks to us when we are still and quiet.

Stephen Miguel Reyes

1. Before attending this retreat, was there anything that made you hesitant to go—whether a personal obstacle, doubt, or concern? How did God meet you in that?

No I was always looking forward to go since I heard about it, however for financial reasons at the time there was a possibility I could not make it. Thanks to Sterling and Bay Hills you guys covered the cost for me and by the glory of God He met me there, and I was able to go.

2. During the retreat, what did God reveal to you—about Himself, about who you are, or about your journey with Him? How has that experience shaped your next steps?

He revealed to me that “It is finished” the work is done and I can rest in Him. The sin my body is conditioned to does not define me, He does. And He is constantly refining me.

 I used to have a "doing 'for' God" type of attitude and as a result of this I would find myself dancing to my own beat in a way. When I started doing things “with” God I was perfectly in sync with Him, and I was able to allow His grace to cover me during my refining process. This gave me clarity and comfort in areas I struggled with often when I fell short.

As for the steps Im being called to walk into next would be to continue to serve others and bring people to Christ. My walk I believe has nothing to do with me and everything to do with others. I truly believe that. This experience shaped me in the way I found comfort in allowing myself to receive his grace and rest in it so I can continue to serve him confidently.



3. If you could speak directly to a man who’s never been on a retreat like this, what would you say to encourage him to take that step?
I would say time to re-align oneself with God is important. Even better when you have fellowship where men can be vulnerable and talk about things we often don’t talk about.

Sterling Bell

1. Before attending this retreat, was there anything that made you hesitant to go—whether a personal obstacle, doubt, or concern? How did God meet you in that?
I can say there was no hesitation or reluctance on attending this year’s men’s retreat. I was so encouraged by last year’s retreat that I wanted to bring as many men in my circle of influence to the retreat to enjoy Gods beautiful creation and break away from the busyness of daily life.

2. During the retreat, what did God reveal to you—about Himself, about who you are, or about your journey with Him? How has that experience shaped your next steps?
 Two things that God revealed to me durning the retreat is that one, Jesus completed the work on the cross and that all I have to do is truly rest in the Lord. The work has been done. No need to strive to do things for God but rest and be the branch that bears the fruit as the Lord is the vine doing all the work through us. Secondly, what God reveled to me is that I need to sit back and enjoy all what God has created for us to experience. We talk about work/life balance but that’s like walking a tight rope trying not to fall off. On the other hand God wants us to enjoy our relationship with him like we are dancing on a dance floor and letting the Lord set the rhythm to our lives. Having that child like faith/joy and dancing with our Father without any concern of what others may think how silly we may look. That’s real joy. How has it shape my next steps that God is calling me to take? I can rest knowing I’m a child of God and I need to enjoy every step/dance with him. To fully walk into my destiny/purpose of being a fisher of men.

3. If you could speak directly to a man who’s never been on a retreat like this, what would you say to encourage him to take that step?
Are you hungry, thirsty, a little exhausted? Looking for something refreshing for your soul? Are you seeking a real brotherly connection with other brothers in Christ? This annual retreat is something I would encourage all men of all stages of life to attend. It’s not just about camping in the mountains for a weekend. It’s about men sharpening other men. It’s about men being able to be vulnerable and transparent and supporting each other in a way that is opposite of what our culture says. It’s how God designed his church as a family.

I’ll be honest—I was surprised when the Elders asked me to take a sabbatical. I didn’t request one, and to be fair, I wasn’t even thinking about it. (That’s what I get for missing a meeting!) But as they laid out their reasoning, I realized something important: this wasn’t just about me. It was about the long-term health of Bay Hills and the sustainability of leadership for the years ahead.

For the last eight years, I’ve been running hard. Leading through COVID. Leading the transition out of my last church. Leading the transition into Bay Hills. Walking through some of the highest highs and the deepest valleys of ministry. And now, pouring everything I have into the RISE initiative and the future of Bay Hills.

I love this church, and I love what God is doing here. I’m more excited than ever about what’s ahead. But the reality is that I cannot keep leading at my best without an intentional season of rest and renewal. I can feel I'm starting to get tired. 

That’s why, after prayer and discussion with our Elders, I will be stepping away for a two-part sabbatical (more on that in a minute). I want to take a moment to explain what that means, why it’s essential, and what I hope it will mean for both me and Bay Hills.

The word sabbatical comes from the Hebrew word Shabbat, meaning “to cease, to rest.” It’s where we get the word Sabbath, and it reflects God’s design for regular rhythms of rest and renewal. From the very beginning, God built this into the fabric of creation—working for six days and resting on the seventh (Genesis 2:2-3).

A pastoral sabbatical follows this biblical principle, providing intentional time away from the daily demands of ministry for the purpose of spiritual, emotional, and physical replenishment. This is not simply an extended vacation—it is a time set apart for rest, renewal, and a deeper connection with God. It's about putting down certain work to pick up a different kind of work.

Soul work.

Jesus also modeled this rhythm, frequently withdrawing from the crowds to spend time in solitude and prayer (Luke 5:16). Throughout church history, healthy churches have recognized that seasons of deep rest lead to seasons of effective ministry.

Pastoral ministry is unique in many ways. It’s not more important than other professions, but it does carry a unique set of challenges that make rhythms of rest difficult.

• Ministry is emotionally and spiritually demanding. Pastors walk with people through both the best and worst moments of their lives—sometimes within the same hour. The emotional highs and lows are intense, and over time, they take a toll.

• Pastors are always on call. Unlike most jobs, ministry doesn’t have clear “on” and “off” hours. Even vacations are rarely uninterrupted. A sabbatical creates space to truly unplug.

• The health of a pastor has ripple effects. If a pastor is leading on empty, his family, the staff, and the whole church feel it. 

Churches that understand this tend to have pastors who lead longer, lead better, and love their church more deeply. And the Elders at Bay Hills both understand and recognize all of this. For that, I’m grateful that they care enough about the future of this church to insist that I take this time away. 

I know some might wonder, is now really the best time? Especially coming off the launch of RISE, when we’re asking everyone to step up in new ways.

I get it. I’ve wrestled with that too.

But the truth is—this is exactly the right time.

As a church, we are stepping into a new era. The vision is big, the mission is clear, and the need for strong leadership has never been greater. If I’m going to lead well into this next season, I need to ensure that I’m leading from a place of strength—not fatigue.

Taking this time now isn’t about stepping away from the vision. It’s about making sure I’m ready to lead in an inherently Spirit-filled and well-rested way. 

My sabbatical rhythm has typically been three months every five years. However, pastors don’t usually take a sabbatical just three years into their roles. The Elders and I recognize the significance of this season for Bay Hills while carefully weighing the cumulative effect of my last eight years of ministry.

As a compromise, for the first time ever, I will be taking a split sabbatical:

• The first part will begin on Sunday, February 16, at 2:00p, immediately following the conclusion of the RISE series. I will return to ministry on Tuesday, March 18.

• The second part will be twice as long and take place this summer. I will be away for two months—June and July—and return on July 30th for Revival Night, as well as joining you all at Bay Hills Retreat. 

This approach allows me to both get adequate time for renewal and minimize the consecutive weeks away during a critical season in our church’s journey.

This sabbatical is not just about stepping away—it’s about rest, renewal, and preparation for the future. During this time, I will:

• Spend focused time completing key writing projects – Including the Rooted curriculums, which will be instrumental in shaping our assimilation pathway at Bay Hills.

• Attend a counseling intensive with Dr. Hud McWilliams – A time for deep reflection, focused vision, and personal soul care.

• Receive leadership coaching – Investing in my own growth so that I can lead more effectively in the next season of ministry.

• Spend intentional time with my wife, Shannon – This season has been challenging with our son Tyler’s increasing medical complications, and we need time together to reconnect and reset the rhythms in our relationship. 

• Visit my kids in San Diego – Quality time with family that has been hard to prioritize in the busyness of ministry.

• Personal solitude – Going away for a prolonged period to be alone with God, to reflect, pray, and listen without distraction.

• Read, rest, and recharge – Making space for renewal through the Bible, books, and unhurried time.

• And, of course, take a long Harley trip – Riding with my best friend, Pastor Chuckk Gerwig, because sometimes, nothing clears the mind like the open road.

This is not just an extended break—it’s an intentional investment in my health, my family, and my leadership so that I can continue serving Bay Hills with strength and clarity for years to come.

Fortunately, this is an ideal time for me to step away. Our team is healthy, strong, and now fully intact. With Pastor Anthony Favors joining the teaching team, Pastors Terrence and Wesley have a solid plan in place for Sunday morning messages. These are the capable, experienced leaders who will continue to faithfully bring God’s Word to Bay Hills while I’m away...just like always.

I’m grateful for a church that is not built around one person, but rather a shared commitment to the movement of God in our community. Bay Hills is in great hands, and I’m excited for what God will have to say through these leaders.

More than anything, I want to say thank you.

Thank you for trusting me. Thank you for being a church that values healthy leadership. Thank you for understanding that this isn’t about stepping away—it’s about stepping back in stronger.

I love this church deeply. I am committed to leading Bay Hills into the future with everything I have. This sabbatical is part of ensuring that I can do that well—for years to come.

I step away with excitement and confidence—not because the work is done, but because I know that God is at work, our leadership is strong, and our best days are still ahead.

I’ll see you soon.

Still Hopeful,

Easter Sunday is almost here and at Bay Hills, we’re preparing for a powerful day of worship, celebration, and new life. With new service times at 8:15a, 10:00a, and 11:45a, we’re expecting to welcome hundreds of first time visitors to Bay Hills on Sunday.

We’ll be celebrating around 25 baptisms across all three services. We’re expanding our café experience for the day. And for Easter Sunday, the Bay Hills Choir will be joining the worship team on stage as we lift up the name of Jesus together in a powerful way.

But to truly make Easter a success, we need everyone to bring a guest mindset.

This day isn’t about routines. It’s not about claiming your usual spot, catching up with your usual people, or parking in your usual space. It’s about making it easy and welcoming for guests to move towards more life. Here are a few tips for ensuring a successful Easter Sunday at Bay Hills this year.

Attend the 8:15a Service if You Can

If you call Bay Hills home, would you consider attending the 8:15a service? The later services will likely be the most crowded, so shifting to the earlier time creates space for new guests and young families who typically arrive later. Your flexibility is an act of hospitality.

Move Up and In

When you enter the Worship Center, move up and in toward the front and toward the center of the row. This small act of intentionality creates easier seating access for late arrivals and large groups, especially guests who may already feel nervous walking into church for the first time.

Engage with People You Don’t Know

It’s natural to connect with familiar faces. But this Easter, prioritize connecting with someone you don’t know. Introduce yourself. Ask how they heard about Bay Hills. Offer to help them find their way around. That simple conversation might be what encourages them to come back.

Keep Your Head on a Swivel

Be alert. Look for people who seem unsure, lost, or hesitant. Smile. Ask if you can help. Invite them to sit with you. Every moment you stay aware of someone else’s experience, you become the welcoming presence of Jesus to someone searching for hope.

Park Further Away

If you’re able-bodied, consider parking farther away and leaving the closer spots for first-time guests, young families, and those who need easier access. It’s a small sacrifice that communicates a big message: You’re welcome here.


Make Room for More Life

This Easter, let’s not just attend church...let’s be the church. Let’s create a place where every guest can feel seen, welcomed, and loved. Because Jesus came to bring life to those who need it most.

• Let’s be ready.
• Let’s be kind.
• Let’s be expectant.

And let’s be the reason someone comes to Life this Easter.

Silent Saturday is the space between death and resurrection. Jesus is buried. The sky has gone still. The disciples have scattered. It is the pause in the middle of the story, where grief speaks louder than hope, and God seems silent.

It is the day for those who know what it feels like when God does not answer right away. For anyone who has prayed and, seemingly, heard no reply; grieved with no comfort; or waited for breakthrough that still has not come.

This day is for you.

Jesus was not inactive in the silence. His work continued, hidden from view. Silent Saturday reminds us that the silence of God is not the absence of God.

How the Church Has Observed It

Historically, the Church has called this day Holy Saturday. In the early centuries of Christianity, believers marked it with fasting, quiet, and reflection. It was a day of sacred stillness: no celebrations, no services, no noise. It honored the mystery of the in-between, the time when Jesus descended to the dead, finishing the work of salvation beyond what human eyes could see.

In many traditions, Silent Saturday included a vigil after sundown, waiting in darkness for the resurrection light to break forth. For centuries, the silence of Saturday has held space for the suffering, the waiting, and the wondering.

How to Use This Devotional

This devotional is structured across twelve hours of Silent Saturday. Begin at 7:00am, with a new section every three hours. Each entry includes a Bible verse, a reflection, and a prayer adapted from the historic Book of Common Prayer, which has guided Christian worship and devotion since the 1500s. These prayers have been gently rewritten in modern language to help you engage with God personally and pastorally.

Use each time block to pause, read slowly, reflect deeply, and pray honestly. You are invited to sit in the silence with Jesus, knowing resurrection is near, even if you cannot yet feel it.

7:00am to 10:00am: The Shock of Silence

Luke 23:56 — But by the time they were finished, the Sabbath had begun, so they rested as required by the law.

The day begins with obedience, but the air is heavy. The women rested as the law commanded, yet nothing in them felt settled. Their world had just shattered. Sometimes we move through routines while our hearts are in pieces. This morning, slow down before you begin any routine. Acknowledge any pain and bring it to God who is with you.

Book of Common Prayer (modernized):
Lord of all comfort, we wake today unsure of what comes next. Meet us in this quiet place. Calm our anxious thoughts. Hold us when we do not understand. Be near in the silence. Be present in the ache. Amen.

10:00am to 1:00pm: The Weight of Waiting

Psalm 13:1 — O Lord, how long will you forget me? Forever? How long will you look the other way?

Time seems to move more slowly in uncertainty. And the longer we have to wait, the more doubt creeps in. Waiting, however, doesn't have to be passive.  I can be its own kind of wrestling. When God feels distant, it is easy to question His nearness. But even in the long silence, He remains faithful. Let these hours be honest. Name your fears. But also choose to trust.

Book of Common Prayer (modernized):
God of hope, teach us how to wait with faith. When the hours drag on, give us strength to endure. When we are tempted to despair, remind us that You are not done. Help us trust that You are working in ways we cannot see. Amen.

1:00pm to 4:00pm: The Ache of Uncertainty

John 20:9 — For until then they still hadn’t understood the Scriptures that said Jesus must rise from the dead.

Even those closest to Jesus missed what He had clearly said. Sometimes our pain and anxiety muffles His promises. The disciples knew His words, but their sorrow made it hard to believe. We, too, struggle to hold on when nothing around us feels true. Let this be a moment to return to what He has said, and ask Him to help you believe again.

Book of Common Prayer (modernized):
Faithful God, when our minds are confused and our hearts are weary, remind us of what is true. Re-anchor us in Your Word. Open our eyes to see Your hand, even in the shadows. Keep us close while we wait. Amen.

4:00pm to 7:00pm: The Promise in the Pause

Lamentations 3:26 — So it is good to wait quietly for salvation from the Lord.

Evening settles in. The tomb is still sealed. And yet, God has not forgotten. What feels lifeless is not the end. Jesus is accomplishing victory in silence. As these final hours of the day unfold, rest in the promise that God is not finished. The stone will roll away. Life will rise again.

Book of Common Prayer (modernized):
God of resurrection, help us wait with hope, not fear. Let the silence form in us a deeper trust. Prepare our hearts for what You are about to do. And give us peace, knowing You always keep Your promises. Amen.

At 15 years old, I never imagined my faith would become the foundation of my life. I grew up in a Christian home, but my belief felt empty. I was more focused on pleasing people than seeking God.

When my best friend of six years ended our friendship in December 2021, I fell into a deep depression and turned to the wrong crowd, but I was drifting further away from who I wanted to be.

Then, in early 2024, I felt something different, a calling from the Holy Spirit to realign my life with God. Taking a leap of faith, I started going to church again with my family and prayed a hard prayer: to be distracted from negative influences. God answered, but it came at a cost. I lost friends, but I gained something far greater.

As I grew in my faith, I no longer felt ashamed to share it. From June to August, I lost so many friends, yet I found a sense of belonging at a new church where I felt truly at home. I stopped hiding my beliefs and noticed something amazing, my faith was influencing others.

My dad, who had never really been particularly religious, surprised me the most. When I was baptized, he was moved to tears, something I had never seen before.

That moment reminded me that my faith wasn't just changing me. It was touching my family in ways I never expected.

John 8:14 became my anchor, reassuring me that my past doesn't define me, and my future is in God's hands. Now, I walk with confidence, knowing that no matter what challenges come my way. I am never alone.

My journey hasn't been easy, but it has been worth it. Through every struggle, God has shown me that His plans are greater than mine, and that He is always faithful.

The RISE Fast

As we approach Commitment Sunday and the conclusion of the RISE series, we are setting aside time to press in and seek God together through a two-day fast. This is a moment to pray, reflect, and prepare our hearts as we step into all that God is calling us to. Whether you’re seeking clarity about your financial commitment to RISE or where He’s leading you to join Team Bay Hills, this fast is an opportunity to listen, trust, and respond in faith.

Why is Fasting Important?

Fasting is a way to draw closer to God, clear out distractions, and grow spiritually. It has been practiced by Christians throughout history as a way to seek God’s presence, guidance, and power. In both the Old and New Testaments, people fasted in times of decision-making, crisis, repentance, and spiritual renewal. It is an intentional act of humbling ourselves before God, recognizing our dependence on Him rather than our own strength.

Jesus Himself fasted for 40 days before beginning His public ministry (Matthew 4:1-2), and He taught that fasting should be a regular part of our spiritual lives (Matthew 6:16-18). When we fast, we set aside something physical—food—to focus on something greater—God. It helps us become more aware of His voice, deepens our prayer life, and aligns our hearts with His purposes.

As Jesus said, “People do not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.” (Matthew 4:4, NLT). Fasting reminds us that we are sustained by God, not just from food, and it helps us shift our reliance from the temporary things of this world to the eternal power of God. This fast is an opportunity to press in, seek God with expectancy, and invite Him to move powerfully in our lives and in our church.

What Kind of Fast Are We Doing?

This will be a food fast for those who are able. That means abstaining from eating while spending extra time in prayer and the Bible. If you have medical concerns or are unable to fully fast from food, you can do a liquids-only fast, drinking fluids but not eating. Only those without medical concerns should participate.

The goal is not deprivation but devotion—letting go of something temporary to seek something eternal. If fasting from food isn’t possible for you, consider fasting from something else that is meaningful and helpful in drawing you closer to God—social media, entertainment, coffee, or anything that often competes for your attention. The heart of this fast is about making space for God to speak and move in our lives as we prepare for what’s ahead.

When Will We Fast?

Our fast will begin right after RISE Revival Night on Thursday and will end Sunday morning before church. It is our hope that this fast will be a way to surrender, listen, and step forward into More Life.

A Fast Over Valentine’s Day?

We’ll admit—it gave us pause too. A church-wide fast over a holiday that many look forward to? At first, it seemed like an odd choice. But as we prayed, we felt the significance of this moment called for it. As we conclude the RISE series and prepare for Commitment Sunday, we want to be fully focused on what God is doing in and through Bay Hills.

And honestly, if the goal of Valentine’s Day is to grow in intimacy, what better way for two people who love Jesus to draw closer to God—and to each other—than through prayer and fasting? But this fast isn’t just for couples—it’s for everyone. For those who are single, a day that can sometimes feel isolating now becomes an opportunity to press into Jesus, join in unity with our church, and seek His purpose for this next season.

Instead of being left out, we all get to participate in something powerful together.

MY JOURNEY TO BROTHERHOOD

I started attending church when I was 15 years old. But it took me years to truly surrender my life to Jesus. I had a lot of sin in my life, and I didn’t know how to let it go. It was a struggle, and for a long time, I was trying to navigate my faith alone.

What made the difference?

Without a doubt, it was the men God had placed in my life. I was blessed to have great mentors—strong pastors and Christian men who lived out their faith as an example of masculinity I had seldom seen in the world or in my home. Their example helped shape me into the man I am today.

WHERE DO MEN LEARN TO BE MEN?

Growing up, I never saw a godly man. I didn’t know how to love my wife and my kids or how to treat people. There were lots of men around me, but none looked like Jesus.

So where do men go to learn to be...well...men?

For me, the church was the first place I encountered a different kind of manhood—one defined not by dominance or self-sufficiency but by humility, service, and faithfulness. Brotherhood with other men of faith became a refuge where I could be honest about my struggles and learn from others walking the same road.

The church provided a place where I could be real. A place where I could sit with other men and say, ‘I struggle with _________.’ A place where I could do this without pretense or judgment was a milestone for me. And that’s what men’s ministry is about—breaking the cycle of isolation and finding a place to wrestle with life together rather than alone in silence.

THE NECESSITY OF BROTHERHOOD

During my conversation with Pastor Allen, he asked, “Can you give me a story or circumstance that speaks to the importance of brotherhood in a man’s life?” Upon reflection, I want to answer that by sharing two key aspects that highlight the importance of men supporting each other in the church:

1. About five years ago, before COVID, my friend Eddie Estrada and I were working on maintenance projects at Bay Hills. As we served together, we discovered common ground—not just in our skills but in how God was moving in our lives. That shared experience opened our eyes to the power of walking alongside other men in faith, encouraging and challenging one another. Over time, more men joined us, seeking deeper faith and accountability, proving that we are always stronger together.
2. Another powerful benefit of men gathering together comes from the experiences shared by those who have walked this journey. A recurring theme is the ‘band of brothers’ effect—where trust is forged through honesty rather than the need to maintain an image. When men are willing to be real about their struggles, brotherhood becomes a place of strength, where they stand together in life’s battles, celebrate victories, and grow through shared wisdom.

Men are stronger because of other men. Solomon, one of the wisest men in history, expressed it this way:

“And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not easily broken.” —Ecclesiastes 4:12

Having one trusted friend brings strength, but surrounding yourself with a brotherhood multiplies it. Time and again, I’ve seen this truth play out—not only in my own life but in the lives of countless men who have experienced the transformative power of genuine connection.

BREAKING THE SILENCE, FINDING THE STRENGTH

One of the most powerful moments I’ve witnessed in men’s ministry was when someone stood up and asked, “Do any of you ever struggle with your faith?” It was a simple question, yet incredibly courageous. From a young age, men are taught that vulnerability is a weakness—that we’re supposed to have it all together and admitting struggle means failure. But the truth is, isolation is what weakens us.  

I know this firsthand. There were times I withdrew, leaning toward depression, exactly where the enemy wanted me to be. But everything changed when I surrounded myself with other men—men who, like me, were fighting for their faith.

IRON SHARPENS IRON

There’s a reason Proverbs 27:17 says, ‘As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.’ Men need other men. Not just for friendship but for accountability, growth, and the courage to face life’s battles with integrity.

One of the most practical ways this sharpening happens is in the way men interact with each other. There’s a reason we rib each other, joke, and test each other—it’s a way of figuring out who’s safe. Who takes themselves too seriously? Who can handle real talk? Who will listen without judgment? We’re looking for brothers we can trust.

When men find that trust in each other, walls come down. The masks drop. And real growth begins.

BUILT TO FIGHT

I’ve always believed men were created for a purpose. The book Wild At Heart describes three desires placed deep within every man: A battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue. That resonates with me. Even as a Christian, I still feel that. God created us with a longing for purpose, for something worth fighting for.

Men’s ministry is about helping men fight the right battles—battles for faith, integrity, and family. It’s about inviting them into the greatest adventure of all: following Jesus. And it’s about showing them that the strength to do all of this doesn’t come from going at it alone—it comes from walking alongside brothers in Jesus.

AN INVITATION TO BROTHERHOOD

If you've ever felt isolated in your faith, in your battles, or in your longing to become more than what the world expects—consider this your invitation. You weren’t meant to go it alone. There are men who share your struggles, your hopes, and your desire to grow. Let them walk with you. Be open. Be authentic. And allow iron to sharpen iron. Strength is not found in solitude, and reliance on others is not weakness. Teams thrive on it, soldiers depend on it, and the church is built on it.

Now, it’s your turn to embrace it.

When Anxiety Strikes, Remember This: Jesus Wins
Anxiety can feel like a storm that never ends. It creeps in quietly or crashes in without warning, disrupting sleep, stealing joy, and distorting reality. For many, it’s a daily, unseen battle—one filled with racing thoughts, irrational fears, and physical symptoms that make it hard to function. But there’s hope, and it isn’t just found in coping mechanisms or temporary relief. True, lasting peace begins when we remember a simple, powerful truth: Jesus has already won.

The Weight We Carry
Let’s be honest—life is heavy. We worry about finances, family, health, relationships, the future, the past, and everything in between. The world constantly feeds our fears with bad news, uncertainty, and pressure to have it all together. Sometimes even our faith can feel like just another thing we’re not measuring up to.

But Scripture speaks directly to the weight of anxiety. In Philippians 4:6–7, the Apostle Paul writes:

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

This isn’t a command to pretend everything is fine. It’s an invitation to bring everything—even your panic, fear, and doubt—to God in full honesty. He’s not asking you to suppress your anxiety. He’s asking you to surrender it.

You’re Not Failing if You Feel Anxious
Too often, Christians feel ashamed for struggling with anxiety. We think that if our faith were stronger, we’d be more calm or more confident. But that’s not what the Bible teaches. Many of the great figures of Scripture wrestled with fear and distress—David cried out in the Psalms, Elijah asked God to take his life, and even Jesus experienced deep anguish in the Garden of Gethsemane.

The presence of anxiety does not mean the absence of faith. It means you’re human. And God meets humans in their weakness with compassion, not condemnation.

The Power of Redirecting Your Focus
Anxiety thrives when our minds are consumed by what we can’t control. That’s why Paul doesn’t stop at “Don’t be anxious.” He goes on to say:

“Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure… think about such things.” (Philippians 4:8)

This isn’t toxic positivity. It’s redirection. It’s choosing, again and again, to shift your mental energy toward the unchanging truths of God—His faithfulness, His promises, His power, and His love. The more we focus on who God is, the smaller our problems begin to feel in comparison.

Jesus Wins—and That Changes Everything
At the core of the Christian faith is the belief that Jesus conquered sin, death, and everything that threatens to destroy us. That includes anxiety. The victory of Jesus on the cross means we are never alone, never abandoned, and never without hope. The outcome of your story is already settled—Jesus wins.

This doesn’t mean the struggle disappears overnight. But it does mean the grip of anxiety loosens its hold when you anchor your soul in that truth. Your feelings may still fluctuate, but your foundation is secure.

Walking Toward Peace
Finding freedom from anxiety is not always instant—it’s often a process. It may involve counseling, community, medical help, spiritual disciplines, or all of the above. But it begins with one step: turning your heart toward Jesus.

Talk to Him. Tell Him how you really feel. Meditate on Scripture. Practice gratitude. Lean into the support of others. Take small steps toward trust. And when anxiety whispers that you’re not enough, remind yourself that He is.

Because no matter what your mind tells you or how loud the fear gets, this truth remains:
Jesus wins. And in Him, so do you.

Happy Thanksgiving, Bay Hills! Today, as I reflect on all that God has done, my heart is full of gratitude for you.

This verse paints a beautiful picture of what it looks like when God’s people come together in unity and purpose. It reminds me so much of what I’ve experienced here at Bay Hills over the past couple of years.

You have truly embodied what it means to be a church family. From the day my family and I arrived, you welcomed us with open arms, demonstrating grace, love, and a shared commitment to what God is doing in and through this church. I am so thankful for the unity we’ve built together—a unity of heart and mind that seeks to glorify Jesus and share His love with the East Bay.

Of course, it hasn’t always been easy. We’ve faced challenges—moments that tested our faith, our resolve, and our unity. Satan has tried to oppose us at every turn, but he has failed. By the grace of God, we have prevailed. Each obstacle has only deepened our dependence on Jesus and strengthened our commitment to His mission. As a church, we’ve remained steadfast, trusting that He who began a good work in us will carry it on to completion (Php. 1:6).

God has done incredible things among us. Over the past few years, we’ve celebrated more than 200 baptisms, each one a testimony of God’s life-giving power. These moments reflect the generosity of your hearts—generosity with your time, your prayers, your resources, and your love. Like the early church in Acts, you’ve shared what you have to help others experience the life that Jesus offers.

But what makes me even more excited is knowing there’s still so much more ahead. Bay Hills, we’re just getting started! The East Bay needs the hope of Jesus, and God has positioned us here for a purpose. There is more work to be done, more lives to be changed, and more hope to hold out to those who desperately need it.

Today, as you gather with your loved ones, I hope you’ll take a moment to reflect on your spiritual family, as well. Will you take a moment to thank God for bringing us together as a church?

Yes, when I think about what I’m most thankful for this Thanksgiving, it’s you—Bay Hills.

Thank you for your faithfulness, passion, and cooperation in unifying as one body for the sake of Jesus. I am so grateful to lead and serve alongside you.

Happy Thanksgiving, Bay Hills. I love you, and I thank God for you.

Hopeful as ever,

There are seasons when life feels shrouded in fog. Everything seems vague and muted—the future, our purpose, even our connection with God. Maybe you're going through a season of exhaustion, grief, burnout, or doubt, and every step feels like it’s being taken in thick, unseen mist. In those times, even the things that used to bring joy—prayer, worship, friends—feel distant or pointless. You might wonder, Is God even here?

Acknowledge the Fog, Rather Than Ignore It
First, recognize what you're feeling: fog is real. Whether it’s depression, anxiety, spiritual dryness, or grief, pretending it’s not happening won't clear it away. The Bible paints many portraits of people in foggy seasons—like Elijah in 1 Kings 19, fleeing into wilderness exhaustion, or the psalmists crying out with questions and heaviness in the depths of the night.

God doesn’t call you to “snap out of it”; He meets you in it—with compassion, understanding, and presence. When fog doesn’t lift right away, God doesn't shift unannounced. Sometimes He stands with you in the gray.

Stay Connected—even if It’s Faint
When visibility is low, it's tempting to pull back from everything: prayer, community, even church. But in foggy times, what you most need is connection—even if it only looks like one step at a time:

• Speak honest prayers: “Lord, I can’t see. I can’t think. I don’t feel. But I trust You still.”
• Open your Bible slowly: Focus on a short, familiar passage—a promise of God’s presence (Psalm 23), His strength (Isaiah 40), or His peace (John 14).
• Stay near community: Don’t withdraw completely. Sit in worship. Send a text saying, “Can you pray for me?” A small bit of spiritual breathing can make a difference.

Fog Is Temporary—even if It Feels Endless
Fog doesn’t last forever. The sun rises. Gradually, clarity returns. Similarly, emotional and spiritual clarity can come back—often in small, unpredictable moments: a comforting verse, a warm conversation, an unexpected glance at beauty—a flower, a sunset, a sunrise, a friend’s kindness.

These moments aren’t fake positivity. They are forks in the road, small reminders that the fog isn’t the final reality. Over time, these glimpses become more frequent and stronger.

Jesus, Your Constant Guide
In the most disorienting fog—even literal fog—Jesus asked His disciples, “Who do you say I am?” Peter answered, “You are the Christ.” Even when the surroundings are unclear, Jesus’s identity is never blurred. He is your Champion, Shepherd, Healer, and Guide. In Him, your direction is always clear—even when feelings aren’t.

Holding On When Timeframes Stretch
Some fog lifts quickly. Other seasons—like grief or major life transitions—may stretch for weeks, months, or even years. It’s okay to take each day at a time. Find daily anchors: a single verse, a comforting song, a short prayer. Consider counseling, a small-group, or medical support. Companions who walk with you through the mist make the journey less lonely.

A Prayer for the Fogged Heart

Lord, I’m in the middle of this fog—and it’s disorienting. Help me keep one hand on You, even when I can't see far. Remind me of Your constant presence. Keep my heart soft, my hope alive, and my faith rooted in who You are—not in what I feel. Bring light, clarity, and warmth in Your timing. Amen.

Discipleship Reflection Questions

1. How have you experienced seasons of fog or spiritual dryness? What did that season teach you?
2. What small daily rhythms can you lean on when clarity feels distant?
3. Who in your community can offer steady, quiet support in these seasons?

Remember: the fog may persist, but with Jesus as your companion, guide, and anchor, you aren’t lost—and clarity will come again.

Our minds are powerful—they shape how we see ourselves, others, and every circumstance. Negative thought patterns can hold us captive in stress, guilt, or anxiety, even when deep down we long for peace and purpose. Getting Your Mind Right is about recognizing the thought-life battles we face and discovering how to replace lies with life-giving truth.

Step 1: Identify the Thoughts That Bind You
Start by asking yourself:

• What thoughts keep repeating in my mind?
• Where do I feel stuck—fear, shame, bitterness, overwhelm?

These patterns often stem not just from current stresses, but deeper beliefs—beliefs like: “I’m not enough,” “I have to earn love,” or “This struggle defines me.” Identifying the narrative you’re living under is the first step toward freedom.

Step 2: Remember: You’re More Than Your Mindset
It’s easy to believe your feelings are the final verdict. But in Christ, your identity is not defined by anxious thoughts, past mistakes, or unmet expectations. God doesn’t see you the way broken narratives do. He sees you as cherished, chosen, and equipped with purpose.

Step 3: Replace Lies with Truth
When unhealthy thoughts rise up, pause and ask:

• What’s the lie?
• What’s the truth?

If “I’m worthless” is the lie, the truth is “I am deeply loved by God” (Romans 8:38–39). If it’s “I’m overwhelmed,” counter that with “God gives strength to the weary” (Isaiah 40:29). This isn’t about pretending. It’s about anchoring your mind in what’s real—not what feels real.

Step 4: Practice Mind Renewal Daily
Renewing your mind isn’t a one-time event—it’s a discipline. Try these rhythms:

• Scripture meditation: Memorize and reflect on a promise each week.
• Prayer journaling: Write down lies you hear and truths God speaks.
• Gratitude snapshots: Pause each day to note three things God is doing.
• Community confession: Share your mental battles with someone you trust.

These routines train your brain to root itself in truth—and over time, they shift subconscious patterns.

Step 5: Expect Growth, Not Instant Perfection
Mind renewal is a journey, not a sprint. Sometimes truth doesn’t immediately silence the lies—it slowly overrides them. Celebrate small milestones: a moment of calm, a negative thought caught early, a truth spoken aloud in the midst of fear.

Why This Matters for Mental Health
Thoughts fuel emotions, and emotions shape our actions. Unchecked negativity can lead to burnout, relational tension, depression, or anxiety. But when we intentionally redirect our minds to Christ-centered truth, we pave the way toward:

• Greater emotional resilience
• Healthy decision-making
• Heart and relational freedom
• Lasting joy—rooted in who God says we are

Reflection Questions

1. What’s one lie you frequently hear in your mind?
2. What Bible verse brings clarity or hope in response?
3. What small habit could help you take your thoughts captive this week?

Aligning our thoughts with God’s truth isn't just empowerment—it’s transformation. When you get your mind right, you unlock a renewed sense of peace, clarity, and purpose that ripples into every aspect of life.

One of the most important and prayerful responsibilities we carry is the appointment of Elders to lead and serve the church. At Bay Hills, it now involves a five-step process that takes time and patience.

1. Observation - the process of discerning and determining who, at Bay Hills, may already embody the raw qualities of an Elder, demonstrating them in meaningful ways. 
2. Education - the process of training and teaching the necessary Biblical prerequisites, with both time and proximity to a potential Elder's life.
3. Nomination - the process of making a candidate's consideration for Eldership public to our members (to know a candidate and observe their life), giving each member time and opportunity to voice potential concerns with a candidate's confirmation.
4. Evaluation - the process of formal vetting, by the Elders, which includes assessing a candidate's character and competency over time. 
5. Confirmation - the process of officially confirming a candidate as an Elder, by member vote, with the Elders affirming their fitness for office. 

With that being said, it is the first step in this process I would like to expound upon. It should go without saying that finding and vetting Elders is not a task we should take lightly. In fact, the Apostle Paul laid out clear and meaningful guidelines for this role in passages like 1 Timothy 3 and Titus 1 for precisely this reason. He further gives us a number of qualities and characteristics the church should observe in those who are called to lead God’s people. This does not include those we necessarily like, or those who are particularly successful, or even the leaders who are the most charismatic. No, at Bay Hills, there's one principle that we hold tightly to when considering Elders: we do not appoint men who seek out or demand a seat at the table, instead we look for the men who are already living like someone who has one.

Our thinking behind this lies at the heart of biblical leadership. When we look at the Bible, we don’t see men vying for attention, seeking titles, or clamoring for recognition. Instead, we see the call for humble men who have already demonstrated leadership—often quietly—within their own family and within the church family. These are men who aren’t looking for a platform, but instead are faithfully serving with or without one.  

Paul describes these leaders as those who manage their households well (1 Timothy 3:4-5). This means their leadership starts in the most intimate spaces of life, where love, patience, and humility are tested every day. If a man leads well outside of the Eldership, he is showing the kind of character that qualifies him to lead inside of the Eldership. We look for men who are already burden-bearing personalities within the church. Rather than hoping they will live up to the title, we title leaders who are already living it out. In my experience, these types of men are often not the ones stepping forward and saying, “pick me.” Instead, they are the ones already sacrificially serving, often without fanfare. In fact, much of the time, they resist the invitation to become Elders altogether.

In Titus 1:7, Paul speaks of the need for Elders to be blameless. Part of this means the men we look for as Elders are the ones who serve without an agenda. They are not in it for personal gain or recognition. Instead, they carry a heart of humility, seeking the good of the church above themselves. These men understand that leadership is about sacrifice, not self-promotion.

I want to encourage you to look around our church. You will find these kinds of leaders quietly loving their families, working hard in their jobs, and serving the church without any expectation of recognition. These are the kinds of leaders we are on the hunt for.  

I am honored that at our last member's meeting we confirmed one such man to the Elders and nominated another, Jack Zhang and Manny Martinez. Both of these men exhibit the heart of Jesus—who came not to be served, but to serve. It’s not that desiring to be an Elder is wrong—in fact, 1 Timothy 3:1 says it’s a noble task. But it’s the posture of the heart that matters most.

My prayer is always that the Holy Spirit will raise up humble, selfless leaders who will shepherd His people with care, wisdom, grace, and hope. Speaking of hope, I have great hope for the future of Bay Hills. This is because God is always faithful to provide the right leaders at the right time. Therefore, let's continue to pray that He will guide us to those who are already leading well, even if they don’t seek the spotlight.

Those are the leaders this world desperatly needs. 

On July 31, 2024, Pastor Curt Vanderstelt tragically and unexpectedly passed away while leading a youth trip to Alcatraz Island. Pastor Curt dedicated his life to loving and guiding the next generation toward fullness and wholeness through Jesus. In the wake of his passing, his wife Becky and daughter Willa now rely on the care and support of the community Pastor Curt so dearly loved. Many are asking a heartfelt question:

“How can I support them?”

There are two ways to financially support Becky and Willa, depending on your connection to Bay Hills Church. The process differs based on which category you fall into, and we appreciate your willingness to help during this difficult time.

For friends and family who do not attend Bay Hills Church, please select the “Vanderstelt Fund” when visiting the link below. This will ensure that all contributions are designated exclusively for the direct care of Becky and Willa. We also encourage each donor to check the box marked “cover processing fee” to ensure that 100% of your donation goes directly to Becky and Willa. Any processing fees not covered by donors will be taken care of by Bay Hills Church. As a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization, all donations to Bay Hills are tax-deductible. 

If you attend Bay Hills Church as a guest or member, we encourage you to give to the “Care Ministry/Elder Fund.” You might wonder why not the “Vanderstelt Fund.” Pastor Curt’s passing has created a ripple effect of ministry and care needs that Bay Hills must address:

• Firstly, there are care and counseling needs for students and leaders who were with Pastor Curt on Alcatraz Island and witnessed the event. 
• Secondly, we need to allocate resources to the care of the ministries that Pastor Curt served and loved so well. These ministries require a pastor immediately to continue providing support during this challenging time. Pastor Terrence, our Community Life Pastor, has been asked to serve in this capacity, at this time. We've also asked both Sofia Niles and Khristian Molia, who had both served under Pastor Curt, to step into full-time roles during this season.
• Additionally, Bay Hills has allocated a staffer, part-time, to assist in managing the overwhelming logistics and administrative needs that Becky and Willa now face, working directly with them. 
• Lastly, and most importantly, the fund will directly support Becky and Willa financially during this season of loss and grief.

By giving to this fund, the church elders will have the flexibility and freedom to allocate resources, ensuring comprehensive care for every need and all affected. These are needs we would never ask friends and family, outside of Bay HIlls, to particpate in. That being said, we hope everyone will be rest assured, Becky and Willa will be well cared for at Bay Hills.

At Bay Hills, we wanted to find a creative way to strategically promote Pastor Curt's legacy and effectively care for Pastor Curt's family. The 'But God' collection is just one more way we can all do that. Each part of the collection features Pastor Curt's favorite transitional phrase from the Bible. On the back, is a full sized QR code that redirects to a video of Pastor Curt sharing the Gospel. Imagine standing in line somwhere, someone scans the QR code on the back, and they are immediately greeted with a video of Pastor Curt talking about Jesus. This is just our way continuing the legacy he was so faithful to, while simultaneously caring for his wife and daughter. Every cent made from every sale goes to Becky and Willa Vanderstelt. More info at the link below. 

Dear Bay Hills Church,

It is with a heavy heart that I share the news of the sudden passing of Pastor Curt Vanderstelt. While leading a Youth Ministry event to Alcatraz Island, Pastor Curt experienced a medical emergency and, despite all efforts, went to be with Jesus late last night.

In just a short time at Bay Hills, Pastor Curt has become a leader, friend, mentor, and pastor to many. His passion for sharing the love of Jesus, his warm and welcoming spirit, and his unwavering commitment to NextGen ministries has already left a lasting impact. He is survived by his wife, Becky, and two daughters. In this moment of grief, we ask that you honor the family's need for privacy as they navigate this profound loss.

Today, I'm reminded of the comfort and hope that only the Christian faith can provide. The Bible assures us that "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). Please be lifting up the family in prayer at this time, accordingly.

This Sunday, I will be stepping in to deliver the message in Pastor Curt's place.

Let's hold onto the hope that Pastor Curt was always eager to emphasize—the hope of a life beyond this one, where there is no more pain or suffering, only joy with Jesus.

With grace, love, and deep sympathy,